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• Joseph Akintaju

  

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  July 4, 2009 4:23:47 PM BST

   Where Are My Socks? 
  
  Look for moments to make love with your husband.  Are you getting changed to go out for the evening?  That's a nice opportunity where you are both in the bedroom and likely to be in and out of clothes.  Is there a time when you are both not busy?  Perhaps after the dishes are in the dishwasher and before bathing the kids.  Pop in a movie for the little ones and sneak away to the bedroom.
  As an aside, most guys just love it when they know they are wanted sexually.  Being aware of opportunities and being intentional about sex is going to bless your husband's socks clean off.
  You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Henry David Thoreau
  
• Okanu Augustina

  
   

  July 4, 2009 8:04:50 PM BST

  that is true
• Faith Honest

  
   

  July 4, 2009 11:50:47 PM BST

  I like it...!
• Joseph Akintaju

  

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  July 5, 2009 12:37:47 AM BST

  i think this applies to all relationship
• Patience Hunter-Akintaju

  

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  July 6, 2009 11:29:07 PM BST

  Just for Him
  
  Does your husband have a particular blouse that he likes to see you wear? Maybe there's a pair of earrings or a necklace that he likes? Make a point of wearing them just for him.
  
  Your cheeks are lovely with ornaments, your neck with strings of beads. Song of Songs 1:10 NAS
  
  
• Patience Hunter-Akintaju

  

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  July 6, 2009 11:31:50 PM BST

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  Touch Me
  
  Sometime when you're just snuggling, take your husband's hand and place it on your breast. It's an invitation to touch something that he loves touching anyway and you're giving him a not-so-subtle message that you are available and like his touch.
  
  Your two breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle, which feed among the lilies. Song of Songs 4:5 NAS
  
  
• Patience Hunter-Akintaju

  

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  July 6, 2009 11:33:16 PM BST

  I get these sent to me daily & while I don't confess to practising it all, it does give ideas on how to make my relationship better
• Patience Hunter-Akintaju

  

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  July 6, 2009 11:34:43 PM BST

  Together
  
  One way to build your marriage is to develop common interests. It gives you something to do together, talk and dream about, etc. Those interests can be small, like what you read or watch on TV, or larger like involvement in a ministry or building your own business. Take a bit of time and list the things that you and your husband enjoy doing or talking about. Are those things working for you? Do you need to add to the list?
  
  Love endures only when the lovers love many things together and not merely each other. Walter Lippmann
  
  
• Jacklean Osigwe

  
   

  July 7, 2009 11:33:18 AM BST

  i appreciate all dis real quotes and essentials things dat must be done.nija keep it up
• Patience Hunter-Akintaju

  

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  July 7, 2009 7:00:49 PM BST

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  Mmmmm! Roses
  
  My husband and I took a walk tonight and it was an olfactory delight. The roses are out all over the place and the smell is wonderful (some of the heirloom varieties come straight from heaven). It reminded me how special odors can be. Why not do something in your bedroom to give it a nice scent? Flower petals, potpourri, scented candles, or a very light spray of cologne on the sheets are options. (Please feel free to add your ideas in the comment section.)
  
  The rose speaks of love silently, in a language known only to the heart. Author Unknown
  
  
  
  
  
• Faith Honest

  
   

  July 7, 2009 8:19:18 PM BST

  OMG Patience u makes me speech less..i like d way u wrote,very interesting..B blssd!
• Patience Hunter-Akintaju

  

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  July 8, 2009 2:32:01 PM BST

  Every day God sustains the world in which we move and live. He provides food, clothing, and opportunities for employment. Most important, he showers love and concern on us every day. Our God is a faithful God. He is entirely dependable.
  That same type of faithful and dependable love is the foundation of every strong relationship. Love is cheap if it's given only when things are going fine. Our love for others must be consistent and dependable.
• Patience Hunter-Akintaju

  

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  July 8, 2009 5:12:02 PM BST

  Compliment

  
  What do you like about your husband? Work it into your conversation with him (nice compliment) or with others (even nicer when he overhears it or hears about it second hand).
  
  A compliment is verbal sunshine. Robert Orben
  
  
• endurance

  
   

  July 8, 2009 6:01:06 PM BST

  Bravo Patience, You've really dealt with the matter. I checked your profile you padlocked it. I guess you are married. Teach me more.
  
• Patience Hunter-Akintaju

  

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  July 14, 2009 2:59:05 AM BST

  
  Struggles

  Pray for your husband in the area where he struggles the most. Perhaps it's his language or a fear. Perhaps it's anger or passivity.
  
  The effective prayer of a righteous [wo]man can accomplish much. James 5:16 NAS
  
  
• Tunde Macaulay

  
   

  July 14, 2009 9:49:52 AM BST

  Akintaju-U're indeed a 'Daughter of Destiny"..keep the wonderful works in your home..pls teach all other women..all these....stay blessed....
• Happy Obilor

  
   

  July 14, 2009 7:06:39 PM BST

  I'm enlightened, kudos Patience! keep it up.
• Patience Hunter-Akintaju

  

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  July 15, 2009 2:08:20 AM BST

  Be Flexible

   It's very easy to fall into the habit of doing things the way that is easiest for you or just following your own preferences. The problem is that you share your life with your husband and he has ways of doing things and preferences as well. That said, I'm not for anyone being a doormat. I'm suggesting that you pay enough attention to your husband's needs and wishes that you can bend to his likes and preferences in reasonable ways and at reasonable times.
  
  If your husband is bothered by loud music first thing in the morning, play something softer (or nothing at all). Leave the loud stuff for later or slap on some headphones if you need a musical morning jump start. If he likes a particular brand of toothpaste, buy that brand. If you can't stand "his" brand, then buy yours too. There's no law against two tubes of toothpaste in the medicine cabinet. Be flexible enough to make room for both you and your husband's wants and needs.
  
  ... give preference to one another in honor. Romans 12:10 NKJV
• Patience Hunter-Akintaju

  

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  July 15, 2009 2:12:23 AM BST

  Thanks people, I subscribe & get it set to me daily. But I really do get lots of tips from it & my hubby is a happier man becos I pick some ideas from these tips.
  
  Becos it works wonders, I will keep posting it here & sharing it with all you my fellow country people.
• Patience Hunter-Akintaju

  

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  July 15, 2009 1:15:38 PM BST

  Efforts

  
  Our husbands are very visual and they love to see their beloved. So, get something sheer ~ a nightie, a small robe, or an over jacket (even if it covers regular clothing, the sheer quality will be a nice touch).
  
  ... let me see your form ... Song of Songs 2:14 NAS
• Patience Hunter-Akintaju

  

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  July 21, 2009 11:19:05 PM BST

  Be a Help

  
  Save your husband a trip. Are you headed to the kitchen? Ask him if he wants something to drink. Are you headed to the store? Ask him if there is anything he needs or wants. Running errands? Run his along with yours.
  
  We can't help everyone, but everyone can help someone. Dr. Loretta Scott
  
  
  
• Patience Hunter-Akintaju

  

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  July 21, 2009 11:20:51 PM BST

  Just Because

  Call your husband just to say, "I love you."
  
  Where there is great love, there are always miracles. Willa Cather
  
  
• Patience Hunter-Akintaju

  

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  July 21, 2009 11:23:29 PM BST

  I Blew It

  
  I just blew it. I hate when I do that. I basically got cranky on my husband because I was tired. I fussed at him because something wouldn't work and I was too tired to figure out how to fix it. sigh.
  
  Tip: Stay aware of your general level of energy. Being too physically tired or emotionally drained is not a good thing (rethink your priorities, time use and relationships if this is a chronic problem). Oh, and be willing to say, "I'm sorry" when you mess up.
  
  Do not think that love, in order to be genuine, has to be extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired. Mother Teresa
  
  
  
• Patience Hunter-Akintaju

  

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  July 22, 2009 7:52:52 PM BST

  Hmmm Nice

  
  Say something nice about your husband's body when he's stepping out of the shower or changing his clothes. Let him know that you find him physically attractive.
  
  My beloved is dazzling and ruddy, outstanding among ten thousand. Song of Songs 5:10 NAS
  
  
  
• Patience Hunter-Akintaju

  

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  July 28, 2009 6:07:36 PM BST

  First
  

  Do something for your husband first. Hand him dessert first. Tell him the good news first. Let him take a shower first. Let him know that you value him and that he is special to you.
  
  A little consideration, a little thought for others, makes all the difference. Winnie the Pooh